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[00:00:00] Welcome everyone to the Your Energy First Podcast. I’m your host, Emily Marie, and it is such a pleasure to have you here today to co-create with you in this space and to talk about all things your energy.
Welcome back to the podcast everyone in today’s. Episode I am going to show you how to take care of your energy when you are in session with someone else or if you are in a group energy session. And also how to make sure you’re only receiving energy that’s for your highest good. If say you are.
Engaging with someone online could be a terror reader or an energy practitioner. Thanks for [00:01:00] being here today. So I have been traveling. . I was at my brother’s wedding in Chicago and he got married to an amazing Indian woman. I adore my sister-in-law. I feel like I hit the lottery with her, and it was a really amazing few days.
It was a couple of days of the Indian ceremonies and traditions, and then it was the American wedding and then, I got Covid , and so I’ve been resting. I’ve been laying pretty low and just caring for my energy and it’s wild what quarantining will do for yourself. So it’s been good. It’s also been really challenging at parts, and I hope you are able to care for yourself in the way that you need when you get.
So [00:02:00] before we get into today’s topic, I wanted to share with you guys, it’s important to me that I am transparent and share with you lessons that I’ve learned along the way. when it comes to spirituality and energy work, there’s so many different avenues, so many different paths each of us can take. And I’ve been doing this for a decade and a half.
I mean, people ask me when I had my spiritual awakening, and for me, I’ve always just been. Very energetically inclined. You know, this is one of my soul’s main purposes in this lifetime, right? Is to be a teacher and a mentor in this way, and I have made ample mistakes and I wanna share with you folks those mistakes because I know.
I can feel it in my heart if I share the mistakes I make. Other people will learn from them and not do the same thing and not go through what I went through. I went through a really, really trying [00:03:00] time. It was about five seven. I’m actually asking my guides, they’re like, wasn’t five years, it’s more like seven or eight years.
It was just so much trial and error and it felt like so much. And I know that I went through that for a reason, and I could never in one episode tell you all of the mistakes I made. It’s part of the reason I’ve written this book called Your Energy First, how to Be Your Own Transformational Energy Healer, which we’re in the editing process of right now.
But I wrote that because going through those challenging times just taught me so, so much. And it was a really dark period in my life, dark because I didn’t know what the rules of energy were. , I didn’t know. I just, I didn’t, it wasn’t that no one had clued me in. It was more that I needed to go through this experience [00:04:00] so that on the other side of it, I.
Learned so that I can teach more. And it also has really helped bring me into my power. And I think in modern culture, so many of us are naturally out of our power. It’s an easy place for us to be. For us to not feel as though we are very calmly and confidently at the helm of our lives, co-creating with whomever your source is receiving support and one of the ways that we are out of our power.
What I see quite a bit, and this is something I did often, Is when we engage with a practitioner, I don’t know how to describe this energy. It’s almost like we feel like they have a little bit of the upper hand, meaning, oh, you know, they’re an energy practitioner, therefore they’re better at this than I [00:05:00] am.
Therefore, they know better. And I can tell you with 100% certainty, no. Knows your energy better than you. You are the gatekeeper to your energy, to your heart. And one of the other things I do know for certain is that there’s not one person in this world who’s granted access to all pieces of information on anyone’s energy.
It would be too much. Could you imagine if you met someone brand new and all of a sudden you received a download of information? all of their energy, current life, past lives, future lives, . I dunno why I think that’s so funny. You’d kill over. You’d be like, I’m trying to deal with my life well enough right now.
Thank you so much. I don’t need to know every ounce of your. Fish . So that’s number one. Number one is that there are universal [00:06:00] rules in place that essentially allow the safekeeping of your energy. Now what happens is you and I have free will and we work with practitioners and we trust them, and sometimes we give our power to them.
We say, you know, here’s my problem. I’m gonna hand it to you. Please fix it. And this is something I have done in the past before I knew better. , and it’s interesting because the way you can care for your energy is so, so simple to avoid you handing over your power and instead having a really amazing experience with someone.
And what I’m about to share is so simple. I promise. You know me. I love simple. I love breaking it down, making it easy for you to digest. easy for me and you to be able to do on a regular basis because part of being empowered with energy work is that we do [00:07:00] it on a very regular basis, and if energy work is really complicated, you and I are not gonna do it on a regular basis.
we got plenty of other things that we’re trying to do. Right. . So when it comes to any sort of energetic engagement you have with anyone, you could be following someone on TikTok and they’re saying that they’re doing an activation. You could be on YouTube and following tarot card readers. You could be having a one-on-one session with a practitioner, even if it’s someone you’ve been seeing multiple times and you see on a repeat basis.
What I’m about to explain to you is what I do myself, even if it’s someone who is supporting my energy, who I’m seeing for the 13th, 14th, 15th time. Every single time, this is my practice. And what’s amazing is I’ve actually been in some precarious situations energetically, and this [00:08:00] practice has kept me whole, it’s kept me safe.
It’ll also keep you clear of spell work. So what’s really interesting about Spell. And I’m talking about spell work in the negative sense because spell work leans towards a human manipulating energy, but manipulating it in a way that’s not for the highest good of all involved. And I have met some. , great practitioners, some not great practitioners who even subconsciously use spell work when they are working with clients.
What I mean by that is the negative people, it’s gonna be obvious, right? It’s gonna feel gross, it’s not gonna feel good. You’re gonna feel like there’s just little dangly remnants, right? When you are no longer working with. Or when your session is done now with a practitioner who’s [00:09:00] well-intentioned what spell work is gonna look like for them, even though it is not potentially conscious, which I know is crazy, but that’s why.
We’re practicing what we’re practicing here today, but what will happen is they will have their own personal impressions of things. They will not be clearly intentional about this session, and they will allow their personal beliefs or their feelings to seep through. and it just forms these little waves of connections that aren’t clear for you.
So I’ll give you an example for myself and for the. Practitioners I work with who I have hold space for me when the time is right. Right. When I’m just like, wow, I need someone to hold space for me to shift, or I know I have a blind spot, I will connect [00:10:00] in with my inner light and I will check in and I will say, is now a good time for me to have a session with so, and.
and for the highest good of all involved. And the reason that I do that is because I don’t know what personally they’re going through in their life. I think that practitioners can absolutely. We’re human, right? We go through stuff too, and a practitioner is gonna take care of their energy and be grounded enough in their practice that they can still hold.
The guides are calling it regulated, regulated space for people. and then there’s some folks who can’t and that it is okay. The reason I say it’s okay is because we are humans going through processes, right? I’m sharing this today to help make you aware of the different options available to you so that you feel empowered as you make these decision.[00:11:00]
Also when I check in with my inner light, sometimes it’s because , the guides are like, you need to spend a little more time figuring this out for yourself versus getting the supportive practitioner. I’m like, that’s that. Um, . So I was checking with my inner light, is it for the highest good of all involved that I have a session with X, Y, Z and very specific.
Okay. Um, the other thing is, like I mentioned, I’ve been in some really precarious situations with practitioners who were not great and who, through their words and beliefs really tried to press upon. This, it’s just, it’s a negative energy. This one of the situations actually happened to me recently and it was a really good lesson for me because I had had some new clients who had said, Emily, I, we only wanna work with you.
We only wanna trust you. And I was like, no, no, no. I said, you wouldn’t just go to one restaurant [00:12:00] your whole life, or you wouldn’t just go to you know, one doctor for everything in your life. You need multiple practitioners. And I still believe. Absolutely so firmly. It’s so imperative, I think, for us to learn from so many different people and receive support from so many different people.
It’s been a benefit to me. . Then my friend and I went on a trip. Whenever we go on trips, we loved to connect with a local, oh my gosh, the guides are calling it an artist, practitioner, energy practitioner. And of course, we set our intentions and we didn’t land one. and so we’re like, it wasn’t meant to be.
And we were actually talking about it at lunch, like on our second to last day. And then one of the people we had tried to book with actually proactively reached out to me, shut me a text while my friend and I are at lunch saying, oh, we’re so bound we don’t get to, you know, see someone. We were willing to like walk into a psychic off the street.
Just, it’s all about the [00:13:00] experience, right? Plus, because of this practice that I’m gonna share with you, Once you have this practice down, as long as you’re not doing something totally not smart, something you know, like this is not good for me, you will be safe in most situations. Now, if your gut is like, don’t do it.
Don’t do it, and you’re like, whoa, I learned this protection tool, , that’s different, right? This, we wanna be smart about this. So we were really willing. Go have whatever kind of experience. We were open to it and um, nothing was landing, like I said. So, Woman texts me and she goes, you know, my teacher, my mentor myself, person who helped me is actually available last minute today.
And I thought, oh. I was like, that’s kind of strange because most practitioners will have boundaries and last minute sessions are not always a thing. And it was a Sunday. And she goes, yep, you know, here’s his contact info. You can give him my name and he’s [00:14:00] ready for you. And I said, And so my friend and I kind of look at each other and we’re like, okay, what do we wanna do here?
Because something about it felt kind of off, but I wasn’t getting, my spidey sentences weren’t giving me a hard no. And I was asking the guides, I was like, what’s this experience gonna be like? And they’re like, well, you know, you already know it’s not gonna be a great experience. And I was like, well, but is it gonna be a really negative experience?
And they’re like, no. And the reason they told me that is because after our session with this person, and it was truly the worst session of my entire life, of my friend’s entire life, it’s actually unbelievable how bad it was and that, that this person’s practicing. But the lesson for me after that was, okay, I have to remember why people get freaked out.
Meeting with the wrong practitioner or someone taking advantage. It was a really good lesson for me on how bad it can be out there. and I will share [00:15:00] parts of this session. Um, I know I have my friend’s permission to share these aspects, but this person was speaking, saying horrible, negative things about our families.
I mean, terrible things about our family, which were just absolutely. and he actually started out by name dropping complete a-list. Celebrity, like the biggest of a-list celebrities. And he started out the session with name dropping and if that happens, Clearly any individual who starts out a session by name dropping is really just, they’re dropping into fear and into ego and saying, oh, well, I’ve read for these people, therefore I’m qualified and you should believe everything I say too.
Now. . I was really surprised that this person name drop and I thought to myself, I wonder if so and so knows that you share that you did readings for them because [00:16:00] they probably wouldn’t be too happy with you for sharing this stuff, . So that was number one. Then they, he gets into, You know, for me, he said you have to start every day by putting your shirt on backwards or by taking lipstick and rubbing it all over your face like the Joker every day to start.
And clearly just a extremely odd, odd session. And I told him, I said, you know, we were actually just looking for the astrology part of the session and I was kinda looking forward to seeing what was in my chart, what my transits were in the upcoming six months. And he just took a hard left and it was as bad as it could be.
He talked. Murder. He talked about cheating. He talked about, he told me if I didn’t do this lipstick and shirt backwards thing, that I would never meet the love of my life. I mean, and I’m not even telling you guys everything. Part of it is cuz I don’t wanna [00:17:00] put that energy out there. But, so here’s what happened.
Here’s what I did. Well, Emily, you should have just hung up on him. Yes, I should have. But instead what I did, um, we actually did cut it short, but I. Started the session and my friend did the same thing, but we set the intention that we each only received that, which was for our highest good energetically.
That was number one. Number two, I held my light throughout the entire session. Now I’ll have sessions with individuals that I trust and I will set my intention prior. Always set this intention every single time. Folks, it does not matter if it is the person I trust most in this world. With my energy, I will set this intention.
I set the intention. I only receive that which is for my highest good and the highest good of all involved. That’s number one. [00:18:00] Now, when I have a session with someone that I trust, I can set that intention once I know that their intention is clear and pure, and we’re gonna co-create a beautiful session together because,
I was in a precarious situation with someone who’s choosing a really interesting practice. I actually really wanted to hold my light and I kept reaffirming my intention to myself. And during the session, my ego wanted to come up, right? I wanted to tell him I thought he was, he didn’t have integrity. I wanted to tell him.
Use rude and all of this was uncalled for, and I stayed in my light, and when I stayed in my light, those aspects of my personality, the ego that was coming forward of my ego that was coming forward was. Fading away, and I felt very calm and very at peace, and I held my light and I took [00:19:00] deep breaths. And when I say I held my light, it means that I focused on it.
I paid attention to it. I visualized my light. If you’re not strong on the visual, you’ve. Feel your light. You breathe into your light, you ask your light to give you warmth. So I held my light and I just kept taking deep breaths and I felt so calm and. , I was really aware of my ego showing up over and over again, and as that started to fade away, I naturally was able to speak from my highest self, from my authenticity, whatever needed to be said next.
And it kept my energy intact. It kept my energy safe. And. When we finished out the session, I asked for [00:20:00] spirit to run energy clearing and healing energy for me, for my highest good, and then just clear out any final debris, potential debris that that person was trying to push on. Me and on us, right? So that is the lesson.
It is set your intentions, and then if you’re in a situation where you need more, a rush, alignment, protection, then you just hold your light and you reaffirm those intentions. Now, the other. For this is, we’re gonna shift gears here and say you see someone on TikTok who’s doing an activation or say there’s someone who’s doing tarot cards.
So very similarly, you envision or feel your inner light so that you’re only connected to your source and you say, I set the intention. I only [00:21:00] receive that, which is for my highest good. And then what’s really cool is you will get these little nuggets of information. You’re gonna get these little tinges of, oh, you know what?
This actually isn’t for you, or you’re gonna get it. Oh yeah, you can listen to this. But really only one small piece of this is gonna be for you. Or it might be where you feel like, wow, you know, I’m totally drawn to this tarot card reader and this message, and this feels really good and really true. I do that for every single energetic interaction I have in a day, and it’s what is going to keep your energy.
The guides are saying tight , it’s gonna keep your energy fit, , and tight and clear, which is what we want. It’s just really good energetic hygiene. and really good energetic hygiene will take you really, [00:22:00] really far. I understand it’s a lot of extra work. I get it. I know it’s simple in practice, but I know it takes effort to think about these things and set your intentions.
I promise you guys, it pays off. A thousand fold. I was about to say 10 fold. And the goods are like a thousand fold. Because one of the things with energy, one of the universal laws of energy is that energy responds to integrity. And when you have good energetic hygiene, you have good energetic integrity, and that means you get to receive more, you get to expand more, and you get to be an experience even more than you already have.
And it may be subtle, but it is pure and it is yours and it is amazing. Amazing. So let me know what experiences you have had and how this works for [00:23:00] you. When you set these intentions, what do you notice? You know, do you start getting really cool practitioners showing up on your for you page on TikTok and more aligned practitioners that support you and whatever it is you’re working through?
Did you get a clear no. And so you’re like, well, bummer, I’m gonna x out of that YouTube video. I was looking forward to listening to that while I was getting ready , but you trusted your gut and you know that by making that decision for your energy, you are going to benefit so, so much. I just wanna group hug all of us right now because doing this work is, and taking this route.
It is not the most glamorous, but I promise it is just so, so rewarding. So one other element I wanted to share with you all today is, I mentioned I was in Chicago, Indian wedding, American [00:24:00] wedding, and I got to spend some quality time with one of the aunts and my sister-in-law, and she’s an absolutely wonderful woman, and we were standing in line for something and we started chatting and she mentioned her guru and handful of episodes back.
I actually made mention. That I think guru culture is dying. And when I said that, what I meant was that the Americanized version, of sort of putting people on a pedestal for doing this line of work is what’s fading because people are no longer, we’re not outsourcing our power anymore. We’re all becoming empowered within ourselves, and we’re figuring out what that means and we’re learning.
as much from one another as we are from the people that we, you know, who are I guess, like taking the lead in [00:25:00] this field. So I asked her, I said, oh, you know, thinking back how I just done this podcast episode about guru culture fading and I respect this woman and. Obviously guru meant something entirely different to her.
And so I asked her, I said, well, what does guru mean for you? And she used was very a matter of fact, and she said, well, it’s teacher . And I was like, oh, well that makes sense. So in Indian culture, they still use the term guru quite often and it’s to mean teacher, how lovely. Right? So I wanted to basically put an addendum to that podcast that I did and show you guys I wouldn’t.
Talk about guru culture. I won’t be talking about guru culture in the same way moving forward, because now I understand what a true. Guru is, and I think where that term came from, there might still be a place for it in the Western culture that I’m in when it comes to sort of explaining this [00:26:00] empowered path our planet is moving towards and we’re on currently.
But I will always share my mistakes with you guys because I know it benefits other people to learn from each other’s stories. Hence why we’re all. . So guru teacher makes perfect sense. And what a beautiful, beautiful tradition. So not any of the traditions that I practice, I’m not Indian. But when it comes to the American version of Guru, I can definitely say no.
Thank you, to that version, . Okay, so one of the things as a final note that the guides are talking about right now, the Spirit team’s talking about right now, they’re saying, when in doubt, go to your heart. They say, breathe into your heart space more. Feel into your heart more. Your heart knows the way, your light knows the way [00:27:00] it gets to be really good.
And my hope for you is that you continue to search and reach for things that bring you joy. Because the world needs you in your joy. Until next time, the light in me honors the light in you. Thanks so much for listening to today’s episode. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review, and make sure you’ve signed up for the newsletter for special insights, offerings, and announcements that are just for you.